5 LOVE LANGUAGES: PREGNANT FRIEND EDITION
There’s something so special about walking through pregnancy alongside your best friend. It’s a season of change, excitement, and, let’s be real—some pretty tough moments too. Pregnancy is one of the biggest transformations a woman can go through, and having a strong, supportive friend can make all the difference. Whether your bestie just shared the big news or she’s counting down the days to delivery, this is your chance to show up, love on her, and remind her she’s not alone. Let’s dive into all the ways you can make her feel seen, supported, and loved!
LOVE LANGUAGES RECAP
If you've never read “The 5 Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman, you are missing out! It’s a fantastic book for gaining a deeper understanding of how you best give and receive love. It is helpful to know what your friend's love languages are. Knowing their love language will help you know just what would make them feel seen, understood, and loved! It truly is a WONDERFUL tool! Dr. Chapman breaks the love languages down into five categories: gift giving, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time. GIRLS NIGHT IDEA: take the love languages quiz (think of the questions as friendship questions instead of marriage questions).
There is value in knowing your friend’s top love language…but let’s be honest…don’t we want to be loved by ALL the love languages sometimes!? I can tell you from personal experience that a friend going out of their way to show me love during pregnancy (whatever the form) was extremely meaningful. So yes, if you know her love language and one of these ideas stands out to you…go for it! But if you don't, just pick one or two ideas from this list. She is going to love it!
GIFT GIVING
SILVERETTES: These were a MUST when breastfeeding. They are handmade in Italy out of 925 sterling silver. Silverettes are designed to help soothe and protect nipples during the journey of breastfeeding. Could not give these a higher rating. 10/10! She will feel loved knowing you are going out of your way to buy a product that she will NEED.
SNACK BASKET: I’m a BIG fan of buying a basket at the store or thrifting one and adding thoughtful gifts. Ask about her cravings and go from there! (BONUS if she can use the basket for the nursery after she’s eaten all the snacks!)
SELF-CARE BASKET: Lip oil, nail polish, candle, journal, chocolate?? Get creative and add things she loves! If you are having a hard time remembering her favorites, I’ve got you! Here is a free “Friend Favorites” document. Have her fill this out so whenever you feel like spoiling her you have a list of her favs to look at.
GIFT CARD TO A LOCAL RESTAURANT: For your foodie friend, gift a meal to her fav restaurant while supporting local business (win-win)!
ACTS OF SERVICE
CLEANING: Maybe your budget is on the smaller size but you have a free hour on Saturday…ask what cleaning task she’d like help with, throw your hair in a ponytail, and get started!
PREPPING PARTY: I LOVE this idea! Okay so picture this, go to her house (maybe you invite a couple more friends or maybe it’s just you). Do nursery prep: set up the crib, take diapers out of packages and organize the diaper station, cook and freeze her favorite breakfast, and make postpartum padsicles. You could also watch baby wrap tutorials together and practice with a stuffed animal, or wash and put away baby clothes. This can be absolutely tailored to whatever she is needing help with or feeling overwhelmed by!
MAKING AND DELIVERING A MEAL: Receiving meals in the first few weeks of the newborn stage is SO helpful! When I am making a meal to deliver to a postpartum friend, I just make a double batch of whatever we are having for dinner.
FREEZER MEALS: Pinterest freezer meal ideas, make it, freeze and go stick it in her freezer for later!
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
WRITING A CARD: Another budget friendly one! Spend some time thinking about what will make her a great mom. Give her the card with a chocolate or flowers or just by itself! (Here is an adorable free card you can print from home!)
SENDING A TEXT ONCE A WEEK: Set a weekly reminder on your phone. When it goes off, spend a moment thinking about what you admire about her, how she will be a wonderful mother, or an encouraging note. Send it!
RECORD A VOICE MEMO: This one’s for you if you are the “on the go” friend! When she pops into your head, take a moment to ponder what she means to you, a positive about how she is doing with pregnancy so far, or how she inspires you. Record a message and hit send.
UPLIFTING PREGNANCY JOURNAL: Gift her a pregnancy journal with prompts, and on the first page, write a note full of love and encouragement. If it feels right, periodically add little notes or affirmations inside for her to find as she writes.
PHYSICAL TOUCH
GIFT A PRENATAL MASSAGE: Treat her to a professional prenatal massage where she can relax and enjoy a soothing touch tailored to pregnancy.
DIY SPA DAY TOGETHER: Bring over cozy items like warm towels, face masks, and foot soaks. Offer a light hand or foot massage with pregnancy-safe lotions.
SOFT AND COZY BLANKET: Gift her an ultra-soft, luxurious blanket that feels like a hug every time she wraps herself in it.
BELLY BUTTER: give pregnancy-safe belly oil and suggest she use it as part of her self-care routine. My absolute FAV is from 8-Sheep Organics, their “True Belly Serum” is made only with clean, pregnancy-safe ingredients AND effectively prevents pregnancy stretch marks and promotes healing and fading of scars. It was the first product I bought when I found out I was pregnant #wortheverypenny! (The link gives you 10% off your purchase!)
STRETCHING OR RELAXATION CLASS TOGETHER: Join her for a prenatal stretching or relaxation session. Many of these classes focus on breathing and mindful physical connection.
QUALITY TIME
THE ADVENTURE CHALLENGE - FRIEND EDITION: This technically hits both quality time and gift giving! It is a scratch off book that gives fun, interactive adventure ideas for friends to complete together. What an amazing way to show her that just because she is pregnant doesn’t mean the fun has to stop! (Use the code MYPEOPLE to get 10% off!)
COFFEE SHOP DATE: Catch up in a cozy local coffee shop! She might be trying to avoid coffee but there are usually lots of yummy options that are pregnancy friendly.
WALK: Go for a peaceful walk in a nearby park or around her neighborhood. It’s a simple way to spend time together while helping her stay active and relaxed.
BOOK CLUB FOR TWO: Pick a pregnancy, parenting, or fiction book you can read together and then discuss. Here are some ideas: BabyWise, The Whole Brained Child, and The Maid of Fairborne Hall.
DIY CRAFT OR SCRAPBOOKING AFTERNOON: For the crafty friends out there! Spend time creating something together. You could make decorations for the baby’s room, scrapbook pregnancy memories, or do a fun craft like making friendship bracelets (you’re never too old)!
There are loads of ways to make a pregnant friend feel seen and loved! The point of it all…DO something! The “doing” is what is appreciated. Don’t have a huge budget right now? Send a text telling her what an amazing mom she is going to be! Don’t have a lot of time? Add a couple snacks you know she would love to your grocery order! Don’t get so caught up with the idea of a gigantic gesture that you don’t end up doing anything. Remember…life is made up of little moments. It just takes one little, intentional step to show someone they matter to you!
You got this! xoxo
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